Only seven months into my Air Force career and at my first duty station. I was a college graduate, slightly older and with a few more years of life experience under my belt than fellow peers embarking on their military careers. I was in security forces, still getting my legs underneath me and working on the assertiveness the career field requires. I felt I was an independent, strong woman who held her own. I was a three-sport athlete all through high school, known to have been in a kerfuffle or two on the court or field. Little did I know one night in February 1998, those notions would all come crumbling down.